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Back when I had to go into a big grey office building and clock in every day, I remember something very specific about the end of the year. It wasn’t so much the merriment of the end of the year (though that does come into play). It was that left and right, I'd notice different kinds of people show up.
Kind A: The ones that binge-consume simple pleasures
It’s really weird to see this because having lived in the US for some time now, I’ve become much more aware that people do December here like it’s their last day on earth. The gifts. The cards. The justification we make to inhale food that any other time of the year would be deemed totally awful for our health. And it’s like we suddenly realize there are 30-days left of the year and we’re going to totally make the most out of it. I’ve had totally sour people turn sweet for no reason at all, which is lovely to see. And I’ve even seen people make life changes in that short amount of time. I'm not saying that this is NOT the way to go. In fact, I've spent many Decembers happily being in this category.
At the same time, though, there’s another group of people on the opposite side of the spectrum.
Kind B: The ones that see this whole thing as guilty-pleasures
Over the years, you’d see why some people become just plain unpleasant during this time. Because everyone around them is so unbelievably happy, whether they’ve realized it or not, they’ve decided to give a different perspective. They’ve decided to be the complete opposite of that and hate on everything in their life. So for these guys, it might be that this month is the loneliest, most miserable time of the year. And they’d want nothing to do with it. Which may bother those who have decided to be happy in the next 30-days.
And yes, I must admit that I have also been a part of this group during certain, less-than-amazing years.
It’s interesting to see the two groups interact and talk about their approach about the next 30-days. It’s like watching two politicians argue about world peace. No one wins.
But then among all that noise, there’s the third group of people.
Kind C: The ones that shrug and slack.
For a long time, I’d think that these people are the smartest people. They’d look around the chaos and just say, “Eh … I’m just going to slack off in the next few weeks. Why bother working so hard? I’ll pick up the pace in January.”
And you’d see these people tune out and spend the rest of the year minding their own thing and not really chasing the rush of the pleasures, or even seeking happiness.
But then without everyone realizing it, they’d hit January HARD.
Interesting isn’t it how there are these different ways to seek, find, and in some cases NOT find happiness?
It’s like we get to see with binoculars what it truly means for each of us to be happy.
- Is it to seek simple pleasures?
- Is it to binge consume guilty pleasures?
- Is it to try to live by the old saying that happiness is all about the journey?
- And is it to allow ourselves the chance to prove that money does buy happiness?
Different people have different world views of what it means to be truly happy.
For me, whenever people say that money doesn’t buy you happiness, I do wonder if we accept this in theory, but still don't really believe it.
And I think that’s because we confuse ‘pleasures’ with ‘happiness’.
It’s likely that money DOES buy you happy moments, or in other words, simple things we find pleasurable. But I don’t know if money itself can buy you a lifetime of happiness.
You know, the kind that lasts for years and years. IF there is even such a thing.
And perhaps that’s where we got it all wrong. It’s like we’re looking to buy our dream house by trading in pennies. Sure, it can be done. But it’d be the most frustrating thing you’d ever do.
Which means that we’ve been relying on things that are not built to do the things we’re asking them to do.
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