Ep. 189 Quiet Wins

Confidence Coaching with Heidi Benjaminsen

Key Points:

• Host Heidi Benjaminsen discusses the importance of "quiet wins" - personal victories in emotional life and relationships that often go unnoticed
• These wins build confidence and strengthen family relationships, even when others don't explicitly acknowledge them

Notable Quiet Wins Discussed:

• Staying calm and curious during difficult conversations, especially with children
• Not participating in gossip or spreading private information about others
• Declining invitations/opportunities that don't align with your values or energy
• Resisting the urge to correct or give unsolicited advice, especially to children
• Allowing others (particularly children) to manage their own responsibilities
• Speaking positively to yourself after failures or setbacks
• Apologizing without casting blame on others
• Making responsible financial decisions, even when unsexy or invisible
• Remaining non-defensive when facing criticism or belittling comments
• Maintaining a positive attitude after committing to help, even if reluctant
• Disengaging from negative discussions without feeling compelled to respond
• Being direct about important issues while maintaining professionalism
• Avoiding guilt trips with teens/young adults when they decline family activities

Key Takeaway: While these wins may be quiet, their impact is significant - they build trust, strengthen relationships, and develop personal integrity. As Heidi emphasizes, "A confident mother is the greatest gift to her family - not a perfect mother."

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