Life After Infidelity In A Marriage “Growing Beyond The Pain”

Red Lipstick Chronicles

Episode 6 of Season 3 Host & Founder: Shaniece M. Wise - Business Expansion Coach & Strategist Guest: Tray Kearney Tray is an author, speaker and Certified Life Coach. In her Coaching Business, she helps people heal from the trauma of infidelity. Let’s dive into Tray’s interview. I have discovered that the main reason why people cheat is immaturity. I got married very young. I was married to a man who was trying to do all of the right things. He was successful in his career, making money, and taking very good care of home. He was doing his best to do all of the things that he had been taught that a man was supposed to do, but he was a workaholic. He never had time for family, and I have since learned that my love language is time. He was able to give me everything that I wanted except time. It was not long before I had an affair. I left my husband and he left his wife so that we could be together. It was not long before I was left devastated because the man, I left my husband for was soon cheating on me. What hurt more than the fact that he was cheating on me, was the fact that I now knew exactly what that pain felt like. I had to come to the realization that I had caused that same pain in some other woman’s life. Many people are not able to share their story because they are still in it. Other times they just do not know that they need help. I am able to share my story because I want other people to know that they are not the only one going through it. They are not alone. Many people have asked me if I had any regrets in life, and I have to honestly say no. Had I not been where I was, I would not have known the results, or learn how the trauma of how infidelity impacts not only the man and the women, but the children involved. Many of the things that we do as adults manifest out of our childhood experiences. In my own life, I had a stepfather who loved me very much. He was very much involved in my life from the age of nine until he passed away. Him and my mother were never married. He was still married to another women, and my mother was the side chick. My mother battled with alcoholism. My mother lost her mother at the age of 15 and lived with a father who paraded a number of women in and out of their household, many of them not much older than she was. She had become a product of what she saw. When my step father passed away, his wife came and took everything that was legally hers. My mother was left with nothing. After working with my life coach, I had my “Aha” moment. God had given me a gift and expected me to use to live an abundant life. That is when Tray Kearney Consulting and Coaching evolved. I became a support person to people working through the trauma of infidelity. I was able to use the negative aspects of my life to bless others. I was all set to write my first book. Today I would like to leave you with my Five Steps To Grow Beyond the Pain: 1. Get some help. Hire a coach or therapist. Learn how to face your truth and find clarity within. 2. Forgive. Forgive not only the others involved, but yourself as well. 3. Be accountable for your choices. 4. Always be honest with yourself. Truth plus transparency equals healing. 5. Take back your power. Have authority over your own life. Always remember: You are not your biggest mistake; you are your better choices. If you are ready to expand your business, let’s schedule time to chat. Click Here - http://shaniecemwise.com/DISCOVERY-SESSION/ Make sure you subscribe on iTunes, Google-play, Soundcloud. Podcast Website: http://redlipstickchroniclespodcast.com Be sure to join my community on Facebook, Branding, Marketing and Selling Strategies with Shaniece: https://www.facebook.com/groups/shaniecemwise/