Ep 170: Why We Fight About Money (and how to stop hitting below the belt)

rich & REGULAR with Kiersten and Julien Saunders

Money is a hot topic, and it's easy for disagreements to turn into full-blown fights. In this episode, we dive into the common reasons why we fight about money with our partners, family members, and even friends. We explore how our past experiences, cultural influences, and even the nature of our brains can lead to conflict and how to navigate these situations with grace and understanding.

Key Takeaways:

• We're not taught how to argue about money: Most of us don't have the skills to discuss financial matters without resorting to emotion or negativity.
• "On the same page" doesn't mean conflict-free: Healthy relationships include differences of opinion, even about money.
• We often hit below the belt: Media and cultural narratives can influence how we approach conflict, and sometimes we end up attacking our loved ones without realizing it.
• Ultimatums are a form of coercion: Instead of trying to control someone's actions with threats, learn to set clear boundaries and communicate your needs respectfully.
• The "money fight" is often about something deeper: Underlying insecurities about control, trust, and personal values can trigger intense conflict around money.
• Respecting each other's processes is key: Understand that everyone comes from a different place, has different experiences, and different beliefs.
• It's okay to not have all the answers: Embrace the process of communication, negotiation, and compromise.

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