Why Your Emotions Don't Matter in D/s: The Power of Letting Go & Embracing the Dark Side"

Power of Kink

In this episode of Dirty Roots X, we talk about why emotions-especially Aggie's-really do not matter within our Dominant/submissive relationship. I know that sounds cold-hearted and cruel, but bear with me. Emotions are subject to change, and if we based our decisions on how Aggie feels at any given time, our relationship would become chaotic and directionless.

I listen to Aggie's feelings, but at the same time, I don't let her emotions dictate what we can and cannot do.

She may not feel like meditating or working out, yet that does not change the fact. Her emotional state is not a deciding factor since emotions are short-lived; they come and go, often for no specific reason. Giving in to them only empowers them further and contributes to instability. Instead, I focus on what's important in the bigger picture to her, not just in how it makes her feel at any given moment.

It only got worse when I used to pay more attention to her emotions. Aggie was more upset, and the dynamic between us was ruined. But once I stopped feeling obligated by her emotional state to make decisions, she felt more confident, and our relationship has been stronger. We briefly discuss how this has helped her in handling her emotions more appropriately-she can catch herself before flying off the handle of emotions. In this episode, the talk is pegged on why emotions shouldn't drive a D/s dynamic and how this practice, as a matter of fact, depends on the dismissal of the passing feelings which may indeed cement the bond between the dominant and the submissive.

-Adam