When Aging Well is Reaching its Finale: The Power of End-of-Life Discussions

Boomer Banter, Real Talk about Aging Well

Episode Overview:

In today’s deeply thoughtful episode of Boomer Banter, host Wendy Green sits down with Catherine Marienau, a retired professor and an advocate for Compassion & Choices. Together, they delve into one of the most sensitive yet crucial conversations we can have with our loved ones: planning for the end of life. Exploring everything from hospice and palliative care to death doulas and advanced directives, Wendy and Catherine share personal stories and professional insights that underline the importance of open communication and careful planning. Whether you're navigating these waters yourself or preparing to help a loved one, this episode offers invaluable guidance and heartfelt perspectives.

Episode Highlights:

Hospice and Palliative Care: Catherine explains the emotional and practical support that hospice offers both patients and their families at no cost. Wendy and Catherine discuss the importance of choosing the right hospice, noting the differences between religious and for-profit organizations.

Role of Death Doulas: Moving beyond hospice and assisted living, Catherine introduces the concept of death doulas who provide additional spiritual and physical comfort, and often sit vigil with patients.

Historical Perspectives: They reminisce about past practices in communities where individuals naturally supported one another through the end of life, contrasting it with today's often isolating and complicated perceptions of death.

Personal Stories: Wendy and Catherine share their personal experiences with end-of-life planning, including the positive impact of having these discussions and the challenges when they are avoided.

Key Takeaways:

1. Start the Conversation: Planning end-of-life care and having these conversations early with family and medical teams can prevent conflicts and create meaningful interactions.
2. Advance Directives and Living Wills: Clearly outline and communicate your end-of-life wishes. Make these documents accessible to your loved ones.
3. Choose the Right Support: Understand the differences between hospice services and consider additional support from death doulas for spiritual and physical comfort.
4. Use Available Resources: Leverage resources like the "Compassion & Choices, End of Life Decisions Booklet" to guide your planning and conversations.

Links:

Explore Resources: Download the "Compassion & choices, End of Life Decisions Booklet" from the Compassion & Choices website. Order the "Finish Strong" book from their website as well.

Order "Fu*k, I'm Dead, Now What" from Amazon .

Connect with Catherine Marienau: Email or Website

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Check out Episode #289 on Women Over 70, where I was a guest.

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