94: Hurt People Hurt People: How to Handle Passive Aggressive Individuals

Drop the BS w/ Dr. Kirleen

Do you have someone in your life that it's hard to have a simple conversation about what you feel or over a concern you may be having? Every time you try to explain what you feel, they take it the wrong way, won't accept responsibility for their actions, or just plain act out. When this happens, you may find yourself caught in the web of their dysfunctional communication style. Before you know it, you're upset, yelling, screaming, and wondering how in the heck did you get here. In many cases, these individuals are acting out of pain and trauma, and like the old saying goes, “hurt people, hurt people". When someone has experienced trauma or emotional pain, it can affect how they perceive and interact with the world around them and lead them to use defense mechanisms. A defense mechanism is an unconscious strategy that people use to protect themselves from anxious thoughts or feelings. On today's show, we're going to look at several common defense mechanisms that hurt people use. My hope is that getting the inside scoop on these behaviors will help you avoid the web of dysfunction and be able to approach difficult conversations with empathy and understanding.
Here's a glance at this episode:
[4:38 ] What is a defense mechanism?
[6:28 ] Top 3 Defense Mechanisms
[15:55] Toolbox Takeaway
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