E163: Breaking Down Success into Micro Definitions with Amber Fuhriman

Entrepreneurs Circle

What does success mean to you? Being a recovering perfectionist and a serial accomplisher, Amber Fuhriman defines true success as being able to make an impact, create experiences and provide transformation for others, while staying true to living life on your terms. It’s about intentionally creating it every day.

Amber is an attorney, a success strategist, a speaker, podcast host, a mindset motivator, and a master practitioner of neuro-linguistic programming or NLP.

Today, she talks about the value of having real conversations, the importance of being selfish before you can be selfless, and finally, the power of intentionally defining your success each day.

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:

• Valuing conversations and building relationships
  
• What she defines as her weakness now
  
• Being selfish before you can be selfless
  
• What happens when you're always saying yes to things
  
• Why she's a recovering perfectionist and serial accomplisher
  
• What success means to Amber and intentionally creating it each day
  

Episode Highlights:

Valuing Conversations and Building Relationships

There is no greater sign of trust than somebody can give you their audience. If you're doing podcast interviews, somebody is sharing their space with you and they're sharing their audience with you. They're trusting you with the know, like, and trust factor that they've built up with their audience through time. And if you don't see that as a huge sign of the faith they have in you, then you absolutely should. Because any podcast host who values their audience is the gatekeeper between the information that their audience gets.

Putting Yourself First

You have to be selfish before you can be selfless. You have to be selfish with your time and your resources, before you can choose who to give that time and resource to. Because if you're not selfish, and you just say yes to everything around you, then you don't have anything to give to the people who need it and you don't have anything to give to yourself.

When you say yes to something, you are saying no to an infinite amount of other things. So we go through our life saying we don't want to say no. But by saying yes, we're saying no to all of these other opportunities.

What True Success Really Means

The definition of success for people changes throughout their lives. What was a success to you previously doesn't have to be successful to you tomorrow. Yet, we hold on to that. And we don't give ourselves permission to change because we worked so hard to get somewhere. And so then we just keep ramming our head against this concrete wall thinking it’s supposed to make us happy. And it doesn’t end up well.

Success is broken down into micro definitions. If you can define success for yourself every single day, then that big definition of success is always going to fall in alignment with where you're at no matter what your job is, what your relationship status is, or where you live. If every single day is a success, and you're intentionally defining that every single day, then the rest falls into place.

Resources Mentioned:

https://www.roryvaden.com/procrastinate-on-purpose

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