The Art of Setting Boundaries in Non-Monogamy: A Conversation with Dirty Lola, Ep. 58

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Get ready for a compelling discussion that charts the high seas of non-monogamy. I'm thrilled to have the inimitable Dirty Lola aboard with us, an accomplished sex educator and media personality you may recognize from Netflix's Principles of Pleasure and HBO's the Sex Diaries. Her insights are not just enlightening, but deeply grounded in her personal journey, lending an air of authenticity and relatability that is invaluable.
"I always said that. I am very much a polyamorous person in my heart as part of my identity. I view it as part of my sexuality. It's how my brain works." - Dirty Lola
This discussion takes us through the emotional whirlwind associated with navigating non-monogamous relationships. Together with Lola, we uncover the necessity of open dialogue, the art of setting boundaries, and the intricate layers of different forms of non-monogamy. This journey isn't for the faint of heart, as we tackle challenging issues such as managing anger, confronting double standards and comprehending the intricacies of opening up a relationship.
To round off, we delve into the life-altering power of having a partner who validates emotions, listens attentively, and takes responsibility for their behavior. Lola generously shares her wisdom on the concept of compersion and the crucial role boundaries play in nurturing it. Whether you're just dipping your toes into the non-monogamy pool or are a seasoned swimmer, this episode is a treasure trove of insights. So, tune in, sit back, and join us on this enlightening journey into the realm of non-monogamy and polyamory with Dirty Lola.
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Capítulos

1. The Art of Setting Boundaries in Non-Monogamy: A Conversation with Dirty Lola, Ep. 58 (00:00:00)

2. Exploring Non-Monogamy (00:00:07)

3. Exploring Polyamory and Non-Monogamy (00:09:19)

4. Challenges of Opening a Relationship (00:20:39)

5. [Ad] Eye-Opening Moments Podcast (00:34:08)

6. (Cont.) Challenges of Opening a Relationship (00:34:45)

7. Managing Anger and Communication in Relationships (00:36:47)

8. Navigating Boundaries and Compersion in Non-Monogamy (00:46:59)

9. Polyamory and the Art of Sharing (00:55:47)

10. Navigating Non-Monogamy and Polyamory (01:04:06)

11. Dirty Lola's Sex Tips on Patreon (01:10:50)