73: Unlearning Silence with Elaine Lin Hering

School of Self-Worth

If you have spent most of your life trying to speak up, advocate for yourself, and uncover your authentic voice, it’s likely you’ve spent a lot of time being silent.

In this week’s podcast, I spoke with Elaine Lin Hering about this exact topic — and how can individuals and company cultures do more to help women uncover their authentic voice.

Hering, the author of Unlearning Silence: How to Speak Your Mind, Unleash Talent, and Live More Fully, shares personal experiences that led her to prioritize work over rest, and how she broke through that mentality to learn the art of when to speak up and when silence actually served her.

Join me and Elaine for this powerful conversation around how to navigate rest, productivity, and finding balance between work and life.

If you are seeking to master your authentic voice, then this episode is for you!

The TOP Learnings in this episode:

• Embracing silence and having agency in life choices (12:52)
• Rethinking speaking up, finding spaces to thrive (15:33)
• The impact that cultural editing and assimilation has on your ability to thrive (28:57)
• Authenticity is key in journalism and teaching (37:43)
• The debilitating cost of silence on your physical and mental well-being (42:03)

Elaine Lin Hering works with organizations and individuals to build skills in communication, collaboration, and conflict management. She has worked on six continents and facilitated executive education at Harvard, Dartmouth, Tufts, UC Berkeley, and UCLA. She is the former Advanced Training Director for the Harvard Mediation Program and lecturer at Harvard Law School. She is the author of the USA Today Bestselling book Unlearning Silence: How to Speak Your Mind, Unleash Talent, and Live More Fully (Penguin, 2024).

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• Buy her book — Unlearning Silence

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