#139 Chronic disorganisation with Jo Cooke of Hoarding Disorders UK

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Today, chronic disorganisation with our special guest, Jo Cooke of Hoarding Disorders UK.

Chronic disorganisation impacts day-to-day living, from time management to project completion, and is closely connected to hoarding behaviours.

Jo’s written a whole book on the topic, so join us as we look into the overlap between chronic disorganisation and hoarding, executive dysfunction, and the impact of grief, trauma, and loss on these issues.

Chronic Disorganisation
Definition and impact on day-to-day living
Connection between chronic disorganisation and hoarding
Executive dysfunction and its effect on chronic disorganisation
Understanding and managing energy levels using the "spoon theory"
Physical self-care and its impact on organisation and management
Grief, Trauma, and Menopause
The role of grief, trauma, and loss in chronic disorganisation and hoarding
Societal shift in openly discussing menopause and its impact on daily life
Importance of self-compassion and understanding that disorganisation does not equate to laziness or lack of intelligence
Impact of Covid and Societal Factors
How Covid has impacted people's experiences, including loneliness, anxiety, and chronic overwhelm
Contribution of technology, fast-paced living, and societal expectations to difficulty in focusing and staying on task
Strategies for Managing Chronic Disorganisation
Body doubling as a method to have someone quietly cheerleading alongside on tasks
Importance of sustained attention, goal perseverance, and finding the right motivation and goal-setting approach tailored to individual preferences
Achieving and maintaining focus on tasks through setting achievable goals, tailored to individual needs, and utilising the PACE approach (Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity, and Empathy)
Overcoming Chronic Disorganisation
Importance of seeking help, defining what help looks like, and joining support groups to combat shame and self-blame
The release of Jo Cooke's book "Overcoming Chronic Disorganisation" for pre-order and her online presence at hoardingdisordersuk.org
Recognising trends in client needs, including bereavement, ADHD, and menopause, and challenges in organisation.
Chronic disorganisation impacts daily living with system struggles, time management, and tasks.
Hoarding and chronic disorganisation overlap due to executive functioning challenges, leading to repetitive acquisitions and disorganisation.
Modern life is fast-paced with high expectations, leading to difficulty focusing.
Body doubling can help remain on task.
Focus on short and medium-term goals, not just the ultimate goal.
Shame vs joy, playfulness, curiosity, and distress tolerance.
Support group helped challenge self-blame and shame.

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#139 Chronic disorganisation with Jo Cooke of Hoarding Disorders UK

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Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe

Podcast show notes and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/

Today, chronic disorganisation with our special guest, Jo Cooke of Hoarding Disorders UK.

Chronic disorganisation impacts day-to-day living, from time management to project completion, and is closely connected to hoarding behaviours.

Chronic Disorganisation
Definition and impact on day-to-day living
Connection between chronic disorganisation and hoarding
Executive dysfunction and its effect on chronic disorganisation
Understanding and managing energy levels using the "spoon theory"
Physical self-care and its impact on organisation and management
Grief, Trauma, and Menopause
The role of grief, trauma, and loss in chronic disorganisation and hoarding
Societal shift in openly discussing menopause and its impact on daily life
Importance of self-compassion and understanding that disorganisation does not equate to laziness or lack of intelligence
Impact of Covid and Societal Factors
How Covid has impacted people's experiences, including loneliness, anxiety, and chronic overwhelm
Contribution of technology, fast-paced living, and societal expectations to difficulty in focusing and staying on task
Strategies for Managing Chronic Disorganisation
Body doubling as a method to have someone quietly cheerleading alongside on tasks
Importance of sustained attention, goal perseverance, and finding the right motivation and goal-setting approach tailored to individual preferences
Achieving and maintaining focus on tasks through setting achievable goals, tailored to individual needs, and utilising the PACE approach (Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity, and Empathy)
Overcoming Chronic Disorganisation
Importance of seeking help, defining what help looks like, and joining support groups to combat shame and self-blame
The release of Jo Cooke's book "Overcoming Chronic Disorganisation" for pre-order and her online presence at hoardingdisordersuk.org
Recognising trends in client needs, including bereavement, ADHD, and menopause, and challenges in organisation.
Chronic disorganisation impacts daily living with system struggles, time management, and tasks.
Hoarding and chronic disorganisation overlap due to executive functioning challenges, leading to repetitive acquisitions and disorganisation.
Modern life is fast-paced with high expectations, leading to difficulty focusing.
Body doubling can help remain on task.
Focus on short and medium-term goals, not just the ultimate goal.
Shame vs joy, playfulness, curiosity, and distress tolerance.
Support group helped challenge self-blame and shame.

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Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode I chat with Sam, who speaks movingly about growing up with a mother who hoards. Now 28, Sam reflects on the claustrophobic environment, the impact on their self-esteem and organisation, and the ongoing journey to rebuild a relationship with food, space, and self-worth. Whether you're a hoarder, the child of somebody who hoards, or you know someone who is, Sam's story offers a vital perspective on living through - and beyond - the hoard. Sam’s experience growing up in a hoarded home Importance of understanding perspectives of those affected by hoarding Sam’s Childhood Experience Description of upbringing in a hoarded home Emotional impact and feelings of claustrophobia and anxiety Lack of emotional and physical space Experiences of shame and comparison with peers Coping Mechanisms and Effects on Daily Life Sam's view of their home as an obstacle course Impact of hoarding on family relationships Lack of privacy and its influence on personal development Impact on Self-Esteem and Mental Health Struggle with self-esteem and self-care Connection between environment and depression Feelings of negativity and isolation School and Social Interactions Effect on academic performance and organisational skills Challenges in completing schoolwork Experiences with friends visiting the home and related anxieties Adolescence and Growing Awareness Anger and frustration during teenage years Lack of external intervention and support Missed opportunities for professional help External Perception and Professional Insight Outside family and societal perceptions of hoarding Drip-feeding experiences to others and feeling of overwhelming others Relationship with Food and Nutrition Negative perceptions of food due to spoiling and smells Ongoing struggle with eating certain foods, particularly fruit Rebuilding a relationship with food as an adult Leaving the Home and Independence Sam’s experience and decision to move out at 20 Challenges and processes involved in leaving the parental hoarded home Continued responsibilities in a second hoarded home Long-term Effects on Sam’s Adult Life Influence on career choice and support work with young carers Ongoing challenges with personal organisation and self-care Struggles with mental health and burnout Sam’s Relationship with Family Complex relationship dynamics with parents Lack of understanding from parents regarding Sam’s struggles and decisions Reflection on parental insight into hoarding and its effects on family Current Relationship with Hoarding and Cleaning Sam’s approach to possessions Emotional responses to cleaning and organising tasks Developing the skillset for maintaining an organised living space Message for Others Experiencing Similar Situations Encouragement for other young carers and children of hoarders Importance of self-worth and identity outside of hoarding stigmas Strategies for mental health and personal growth Final Thoughts and Reflections Reflections on how sharing and exploration helps understanding Hope for the interview to be beneficial to listeners with similar experiences…

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#177 11 unexpected things this podcast has taught me about mistakes, life, perfectionism and progress 38:28

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Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Today, I'm reflecting on 11 unexpected lessons I've picked up since starting this podcast, which go beyond just understanding hoarding disorder. From learning the power of showing progress rather than perfection, to discovering the benefits of stepping out of my comfort zone, I'll share insights that have influenced not just my journey with hoarding, but life as a whole. Let's see how the themes of mistakes, progress, and learning can apply to anyone seeking positive change. Importance of showing progress instead of aiming for perfection Personal struggle with early episodes and progression over time Decision to keep early episodes live as a reflection of journey and growth Examining Contradictions Realisation of contradictions in personal life versus podcasting Applying podcast editing philosophy to home tidying Capabilities and Achievements Realisation of being able to do things previously thought impossible Learning from incremental progress and its application to life Comfort Zones Exploring stepping outside of comfort zones The rewards of nudging the edges and expanding comfort zones slowly Learning and Growth Starting from minimal knowledge and continuously learning Academic engagement and gaining comprehensive understanding Sticking to a Routine Maintaining a consistent schedule and routine with the podcast Role of accountability and motivation in sticking to a routine Adaptability and Change Ability to learn, adapt, and tweak processes over time Application of flexibility learned from podcasting to personal life Community and Accountability Impact of accountability and community support on podcasting and life Building mutual support through interactions and feedback Facing Mistakes and Reality Embracing mistakes and authenticity rather than striving for flawlessness Shifting perspective on self-perceived failures Respect and Compassion from Others Receiving respect from guests and listeners despite personal doubts Impact on self-compassion and self-respect Transferability of Learning Applying lessons learned in podcasting to other areas of life Recognising that growth in one area can benefit others Reflections on the transformative impact of the podcast on life Encouragement to pursue growth and new experiences beyond direct goals…

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#175 Taking the scary first steps: the courage to call a professional organiser, with Jasmine Sleigh 1:00:35

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Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I'm joined by Jasmine Sleigh, professional declutterer, as we discuss the daunting first steps of reaching out for professional help in tackling hoarding. Jasmine shares insights into what prompts individuals to make that initial call and the courage it takes, alongside practical strategies for working with organisers. Tune in for a thoughtful conversation on overcoming fears and building trust for positive change in managing clutter. Inviting Professional Help Jasmine explains common motivators for people to seek help Specific incidents or realisations prompting action Example scenarios like misplaced items or repairs The Initial Call to a Professional Organiser What typically prompts the call for professional help Jasmine's perspective on admiration for those who reach out The importance of taking calls seriously and with empathy Engaging with Potential Clients Approach to initial conversations with potential clients Building trust and understanding the client's situation Establishing client needs and potential outcomes Assessing the Client’s Home How Jasmine gathers information about the client's home Importance of assessing without judgment Considering client interaction with their items and living space Professional Organiser-Client Dynamics Respecting clients’ preferences and leading decisions Balancing professional insight with client autonomy Working towards the client's goals and priorities Process from Inquiry to Working Together Steps from initial inquiry to in-home visit Managing client expectations and realities Ensuring client comfort and readiness In-Home Visit Experience Jasmine’s mindset and approach during a home visit Avoiding overwhelm and maintaining professionalism Logistical and emotional assessments of the client’s environment Judgment and Perception in the Decluttering Process Being conscious of non-verbal cues and judgments perceived by clients Strategies for maintaining client comfort and trust Determining Fit and Referrals Assessing fit between client and professional organiser Referring clients to other professionals when appropriate Dealing with Client Motivations and External Pressures Addressing clients seeking help due to external pressures Finding a balance between urgency and client readiness Ensuring Positive Outcomes and Encouraging Future Engagement Creating a sense of achievement for the client Fostering positive experiences to encourage future self-help Challenges and Responsibilities of Professional Organisers Ethical responsibilities and managing client expectations Building trust for effective collaboration Personal Reflections and Habits for Mental Health Jasmine shares personal habits that support her mental health Reflection on the importance of reading and self-care activities…

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#174 How to feel grounded when we're overwhelmed or dysregulated using ventral vagal spaces and touchstones, with Dr Jan Eppingstall 1:14:51

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Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, Dr Jan Eppingstall and I explore how to create a ventral vagal space or touchstone to help us regulate our emotions, drawing inspiration from the work of Deb Dana and polyvagal theory. We look at how we can find or create areas within our home, and objects we can use on the go, that provide safety and connection, allowing us to feel grounded and manage overwhelming moments. We'll look at the emotional significance of objects, avoiding those that glower at us, and instead creating spaces filled with comfort and warmth. Creating Your Own Ventral Vagal Space Permission Slip segment Discussion about photographic portraits Emotions associated with the portraits Objects as Memories Significant memories vs. happy memories Harriet Impey's notion of "glowering" objects Emotional Impact of Objects Portraits as a reminder of insecurity Ventral Vagal Space Concept Use of Deb Dana's work in polyvagal theory Connection between emotional safety and physical space Explanation of Polyvagal Theory Breakdown of the nervous system's stages: ventral vagal, sympathetic, and dorsal vagal Relevance of Polyvagal Theory to Hoarding Trauma and its relation to object attachment Challenges of decision-making in a cluttered environment Deb Dana's Home Analogy - Comparison of home systems to body's autonomic systems Integration needed for a "full life" and connection Practical Application of Ventral Vagal Spaces Creating nourishing home spaces Abundance Importance of Touchstones Explanation and significance of touchstones Examples of personal or portable calming items Creating a Ventral Vagal Space or Touchstone Starting small by identifying objects that bring safety and contentment Using childhood memories to influence current safe spaces Applications and Benefits Using the space for emotional regulation Touchstones as portable reminders of safety Recognising objects that already serve as touchstones Importance of awareness and observation in identifying touchstones Utilising Resources for Grounding Examples of resources: lava lamps, messages, certain sounds Strategies for implementing these resources in daily life…

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#173 9 things that are working for me when tackling hoarding and over-acquiring right now 40:53

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Sign up for the newsletter: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/newsletter Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, I'm sharing nine strategies that are making a real difference in managing my hoarding behaviour and curbing over-acquiring right now. From tricks to overcome perfectionism and opening a daunting pile of letters to finding support in unexpected places and even leveraging a cute app, these tactics are moving me forward. Join me as I lay out what's working, in the hope it sparks a few ideas for you too. Opening 100 unopened letters Overcoming fear and procrastination Sorting coins and dealing with obsolete items Decision-making process in letting go Recognising dehoarding as self-kindness, not punishment Benefits of having a friend who knows the hoarding situation Managing perfectionism and doing things imperfectly Using the "hummingbird method" for tasks Introduction and use of the Finch app for self-care Using virtual assistants for task reminders Success with excessive mug collection and food cupboards Impact of the documentary "Buy Now" on purchasing habits Changing relationship with the inner critic Overcoming Mail Anxiety Milestone Kindness, Not Chore Embrace Imperfection for Future Growth Hands-Free Task Management Best-before dates at the start of the year Consumerism Documentary Curbing Instant Gratification…

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#172 Harriet Impey on clearing out her parents’ very full home, through family belongings and personal growth, in the film Where Dragons Live 1:05:23

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Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, I chat with Harriet Impey about the complex process of clearing out her parents' cluttered house after their deaths. From unusual family rules to emotional ties with objects, we cover how Harriet navigated the challenges of sorting belongings, her family dynamics, and the personal growth she experienced along the way navigating emotional landscapes. We also talk about whether her parents hoarded and how their relationship with their stuff has affected her relationship with her stuff. Plus, we discuss the importance of letting go, embracing mindfulness, and the transformative power of therapy. Trailer: Where Dragons Live : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w2ARgzYZei8 Growing up in a cluttered house and realisation later in life Harriet's mother's attachment to objects and possible hoarding Influence of family habits on personal behaviour Relationships and Emotional Awareness Harriet's journey towards emotional awareness and accepting imperfections Importance of recognising complex feelings Managing fear of arguments and expressing anger Using Objects Instead of Saving Them Harriet's family preference for keeping items "too special to use" Transition to using these items with joy Family Dynamics and Emotional Suppression Differences in attitudes towards possessions among Harriet and her siblings Parents' contrasting approaches to objects Impact of her mother's anxiety on household rules and behavior Clearing Out Parents' Home Harriet's responsibility in sorting through parental belongings Emotional impact of dealing with deceased person's possessions Reference to "Swedish Death Cleaning" Importance of considerate item management Therapy and Self-Reflection Harriet's 20 years of therapy and its impact The influence of therapy on personal happiness and self-awareness Learning to be less rigid in life Managing and Letting Go of Belongings Evaluating the necessity of keeping certain belongings Mindfulness and Mental Health Mindful self-compassion and ACT The filming of "Where Dragons Live" The dual charm and burden of the family home Personal Experiences and Family Impact…

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#170 Impermanence: radical acceptance in a world of change with Dr Jan Eppingstall 1:02:32

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Get your 2025 decluttering inspo calendar: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/2025 Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Exploring impermanence, this episode highlights how these concepts can help us understand hoarding behaviours and the illusion of control. Looking at impermanence also includes addressing mindfulness, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, coping with change, ambiguity and uncertainty. Yikes! Embracing Impermanence Psychological benefits of impermanence Concept of "glimmers" Interplay between mindfulness and impermanence Fernández-Campos paper on non-judgmental attention Critique of commercial distortion of mindfulness Jon Kabat-Zinn’s definition of mindfulness Practical mindfulness exercises Mindfulness in Hoarding Context Psychological dimensions and security from possessions Environmental Responsibility vs. Hoarding Personal insights on waste and possessions Uncertainty, Ambiguity, and Impermanence in Hoarding Tolerance of uncertainty and ambiguity Embracing impermanence to reduce distress Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Hoarding Psychological flexibility and acceptance of constant change ACT's promotion of resilience Use of ACT and Compassion Focused Therapy Radical Acceptance Steps to practice radical acceptance Awareness and curiosity toward challenges Vocalising Thoughts and Journaling Benefits of speaking thoughts aloud Buddhist Concepts and Impermanence Awareness and acceptance in Buddhism Tara Brach’s qualities of awareness Personal Reflections on Change and Relationships Resisting and coming to terms with change "Permission Slip" Segment Concept of Control and Suffering in Hoarding Desire for permanence leading to hoarding behaviour Justifications for Keeping Items Avoiding unnecessary consumption Ethical decision-making when buying Increasing Awareness and Understanding Personal Motivations Promoting curiosity through being without something…

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#169 Compassion-focused therapy for grief and hoarding with Dr Chia-Ying Chou 43:30

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Get your 2025 decluttering inspiration calendar: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/2025 Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, I ask Dr Chia-Ying Chou about the complex interplay between grief and hoarding. We'll explore how emotions like grief can trigger hoarding behaviour, the role an inner critic plays, and learn all about compassion-focused therapy – including why it’s so much easier to offer compassion than to receive it. The timing is perfect, coinciding with National Grief Awareness Week in the UK. Grief and Hoarding Discussion Chia-Ying Chou discusses the non-direct link between grief and hoarding based on clinical experience. Factors such as resistance to grieving and avoiding vulnerability exacerbate hoarding. Grief can trigger hoarding behaviour to maintain a sense of control and avoid confronting loss. Host shares personal experiences of how grief intensified their hoarding behaviour. Grief and Possessions People keep deceased loved ones' belongings as a way to preserve their existence. Chou mentions the ambiguous preservation of loved ones through items. Anxiety and resistance to facing grief make organising or discarding possessions difficult. Complex Emotions in Grief Host reflects on the unexpected emotions in grief, like anger or impatience. Therapeutic Strategies for Grief and Hoarding Chou compares addressing resistance to grief to preparing for a challenging hike. Emphasis on resourcing, preparing mentally, and gathering support. Suggestions for a "baby-step" approach to facing fears and emotions. Inner Critic and Grief Host discusses journey with their inner critic and finding new approaches to handle it. Chou highlights how internal criticism is often related to grief and missed opportunities. Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT) Integration of Western psychotherapy and Buddhist philosophy for addressing psychological challenges. Difficulty in receiving or directing compassion towards oneself. Connections Between Hoarding, Trauma, and Grief Patterns of loss, either tangible or intangible, among those who hoard. Episode ties with National Grief Awareness Week in the UK. Cultivating Compassionate Companions Idea of cultivating an imaginary compassionate companion for emotional support. Emphasis on emotions being a part of persona, not the true self. Emotions and Grief Management Pacing yourself. Chou recommends creating space for emotions to surface naturally. Encouragement to welcome emotions as a creative process in internal space. Examine fears and take small steps to engage with feelings.…

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#168 Hoarding, healing, and the art of kintsugi with Dr Jan Eppingstall of Stuffology 48:14

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#167 10 experiments to customise your dehoarding habits so they suit YOU 43:41

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Get your 2025 decluttering inspiration calendar: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/2025 Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I propose ten experiments to help customise your decluttering journey, focusing on individual preferences to uncover what strategies work best in your home. These experiments encourage a flexible approach to dehoarding. It's all about tailoring your methods to fit your style and your personality, ensuring that decluttering becomes a more intuitive and effective process. Approaching Tasks as Experiments Tasks viewed as experiments inspired by CBT Reduction of perfectionist pressure Emphasis on personal differences and no right or wrong answers Testing different time slots for tasks Effectiveness of beginning the day with decluttering "Swallowing the frog" concept Long-term goals vs. short-term goals for motivation Experimentation and Adjusting Over Time Periodic repetition of experiments to adapt to changes Use of structured time frames and spontaneous urges to declutter Experimenting with personal preferences for initiating action Options such as music, TV, silence, social interaction, or media consumption Use of podcast as motivational tool Upbeat music playlist Group accountability sessions via Zoom for shared motivation Productivity based on to-do list specificity Decluttering strategies: by space, type of item, or item within a space Handling Difficult Categories Approach to emotionally challenging items Tailoring strategy based on personal readiness Consistency in Dehoarding Short daily durations vs. longer weekly sessions Finding the best fit based on routine Time Constraints Setting strict vs. flexible schedules Combination of structured and spontaneous efforts Personalising Decluttering and Productivity Methods Focus on individual preferences and method effectiveness…

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