You Need to Be the Villain in Your Toxic Parent's Story in Order to Take Back Control of Your Life and Heal

You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

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In this episode, we welcome back David French, columnist for The New York Times , former constitutional attorney, and author of Divided We Fall . We discuss the current state of American democracy, the challenges of political division, and how we can engage in civil discourse despite deep ideological differences. David also shares a personal update on his family and reflects on the profound trials and growth that come with adversity. 📌 What We Discuss: ✔️ How David and his family navigated the challenges of a serious health crisis. ✔️ The rise of political polarization and the factors driving it. ✔️ Why distinguishing between “unwise, unethical, and unlawful” is crucial in analyzing political actions. ✔️ How consuming different perspectives (even opposing ones) helps in understanding political dynamics. ✔️ The role of Christian values in politics and how they are being redefined. ⏳ Episode Highlights 📍 [00:01:00] – David French’s background and his journey from litigation to journalism. 📍 [00:02:30] – Personal update: David shares his wife Nancy’s battle with cancer and their journey as a family. 📍 [00:06:00] – How to navigate personal trials while maintaining faith and resilience. 📍 [00:10:00] – The danger of political paranoia and the pitfalls of extreme polarization. 📍 [00:18:00] – The "friend-enemy" paradigm in American politics and its influence in Christian fundamentalism. 📍 [00:24:00] – Revisiting Divided We Fall : How America’s divisions have devolved since 2020. 📍 [00:40:00] – The categories and differences of unwise, unethical, and unlawful political actions. 📍 [00:55:00] – The balance between justice, kindness, and humility in political engagement. 📍 [01:00:00] – The After Party initiative: A Christian approach to politics focused on values rather than policy. 💬 Featured Quotes 🔹 "You don't know who you truly are until your values are tested." – David French 🔹 "If we focus on the relational, we can have better conversations even across deep differences." – Corey Nathan 🔹 "Justice, kindness, and humility—if you're missing one, you're doing it wrong." – David French 🔹 "The United States has a history of shifting without repenting. We just move on." – David French 📚 Resources Mentioned David French’s Writing: New York Times David’s Book: Divided We Fall The After Party Initiative – More Info Advisory Opinions Podcast (with Sarah Isgur & David French) – Listen Here 📣 Call to Action If you found this conversation insightful, please: ✅ Subscribe to Talkin' Politics & Religion Without Killin' Each Other on your favorite podcast platform. ✅ Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen: ratethispodcast.com/goodfaithpolitics ✅ Support the show on Patreon: patreon.com/politicsandreligion ✅ Watch the full conversation and subscribe on YouTube: youtube.com/@politicsandreligion 🔗 Connect With Us on Social Media @coreysnathan: Bluesky LinkedIn Instagram Threads Facebook Substack David French: 🔗 Twitter | BlueSky | New York Times Our Sponsors Meza Wealth Management: www.mezawealth.com Prolux Autogroup: www.proluxautogroup.com or www.granadahillsairporttransportation.com Let’s keep talking politics and religion—with gentleness and respect. 🎙️💡…

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In this episode, we’ll unpack the dynamics that keep you stuck in this role and offer actionable insights to help you step into your villain role:

How conditional love shapes self-worth
The exhausting cycle of chasing validation and approval
Recognizing the impact of gaslighting in parent-child relationships
Breaking free from black-and-white thinking patterns
Understanding the emotional cost of manipulation
Why embracing the “villain” role can be freeing
Building a support system outside of toxic family dynamics
Reclaiming your identity with self-acceptance and healing
Letting go of the need to rewrite their version of your story

This episode will give you tools to move forward with clarity and confidence. I'm rooting for you!

Support the show

Love the show? Become a sponsor:
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Here's how else I can help:

Register for my upcoming free workshop, How to Set Boundaries with a BPD or NPD Parent:
confidentboundaries.com/boundariesworkshop

Learn more about the Confident Boundaries Online Community: confidentboundaries.com/join

Work with me in Coaching:
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Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally.
Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988.
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Capítulos

1. You Need to Be the Villain in Your Toxic Parent's Story in Order to Take Back Control of Your Life and Heal (00:00:00)

2. Navigating Relationships With Borderline Personality Parents (00:00:14)

3. Embracing the Villain Role (00:10:41)

38 episódios

You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

You Need to Be the Villain in Your Toxic Parent's Story in Order to Take Back Control of Your Life and Heal

You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

published há cerca de um ano

MP3•Home de episódios

In this episode, we’ll unpack the dynamics that keep you stuck in this role and offer actionable insights to help you step into your villain role:

How conditional love shapes self-worth
The exhausting cycle of chasing validation and approval
Recognizing the impact of gaslighting in parent-child relationships
Breaking free from black-and-white thinking patterns
Understanding the emotional cost of manipulation
Why embracing the “villain” role can be freeing
Building a support system outside of toxic family dynamics
Reclaiming your identity with self-acceptance and healing
Letting go of the need to rewrite their version of your story

This episode will give you tools to move forward with clarity and confidence. I'm rooting for you!

Support the show

Love the show? Become a sponsor:
confidentboundaries.com/become-a-sponsor-of-the-you-re-not-crazy-podcast

Here's how else I can help:

Register for my upcoming free workshop, How to Set Boundaries with a BPD or NPD Parent:
confidentboundaries.com/boundariesworkshop

Learn more about the Confident Boundaries Online Community: confidentboundaries.com/join

Work with me in Coaching:
confidentboundaries.com/coaching

Follow me on Instagram:
instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries

Capítulos

1. You Need to Be the Villain in Your Toxic Parent's Story in Order to Take Back Control of Your Life and Heal (00:00:00)

2. Navigating Relationships With Borderline Personality Parents (00:00:14)

3. Embracing the Villain Role (00:10:41)

38 episódios

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You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

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Breaking the Cycle: Learning to Trust Yourself 22:19

há 13 hours22:19

22:19

Trusting your own intuition can feel impossible when you grew up with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. Many of us were conditioned to override our gut feelings just to keep the peace—making it harder to make confident, healthy decisions as adults. But self-trust isn’t lost forever. With time, consistency, and the right tools, you can rebuild it and start making choices that truly align with your values. In this episode, I’m diving into: ✔ How BPD/NPD parents train us to ignore our instincts to keep them happy ✔ Why we tolerate toxic behavior more than other people do—and how to break that cycle ✔ The power of cost-benefit analysis to weigh both action and inaction ✔ Why identifying your top 10 personal values is a game-changer for decision-making ✔ How self-trust is built over time (small, consistent steps really matter) ✔ The trap of black-and-white thinking—and why you don’t need 100% certainty to move forward Make sure to join me for my free Boundaries Workshop – Tuesday, April 1st @ 5 PM PT Learn how to confidently set and enforce boundaries with a BPD/NPD parent. Save your spot at confidentboundaries.com/boundaries-workshop and grab my Boundaries Cheat Sheet with 9 go-to scripts as a bonus when you join me live! Support the show Love the show? Become a sponsor: confidentboundaries.com/become-a-sponsor-of-the-you-re-not-crazy-podcast Here's how else I can help: Register for my upcoming free workshop, How to Set Boundaries with a BPD or NPD Parent: confidentboundaries.com/boundariesworkshop Learn more about the Confident Boundaries Online Community: confidentboundaries.com/join Work with me in Coaching: confidentboundaries.com/coaching Follow me on Instagram: instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally. Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're ...…

You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

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Signs You Need Better Boundaries with Your Parent 15:19

há 8 dias15:19

15:19

Struggling to set boundaries with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder? In this episode of You're Not Crazy , I break down five key signs that you need stronger boundaries —and share practical strategies to help you establish them. If any of these sound familiar, it’s time to rethink your boundaries: ✔️ You feel completely drained after interacting with your parent—or even just thinking about them. ✔️ You’re constantly walking on eggshells , afraid of triggering an emotional meltdown. ✔️ You keep getting sucked into their chaos and drama (even when you try to stay out of it). ✔️ You avoid setting boundaries because you’re scared of rejection or abandonment. ✔️ Your parent interferes with your relationship and disrupts your peace. Want step-by-step guidance on how to set and enforce boundaries with a BPD or NPD parent? Join me for my live workshop , How to Set Boundaries with a BPD or NPD Parent! Register now at confidentboundaries.com/boundaries-workshop and get my Boundaries Cheatsheet —with 9 scripts for enforcing boundaries with a BPD or NPD parent just for showing up and hanging out! Can’t make it live? Sign up anyway, and I’ll send you the recording! Support the show Love the show? Become a sponsor: confidentboundaries.com/become-a-sponsor-of-the-you-re-not-crazy-podcast Here's how else I can help: Register for my upcoming free workshop, How to Set Boundaries with a BPD or NPD Parent: confidentboundaries.com/boundariesworkshop Learn more about the Confident Boundaries Online Community: confidentboundaries.com/join Work with me in Coaching: confidentboundaries.com/coaching Follow me on Instagram: instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally. Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're ...…

You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

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One Year of Confident Boundaries: What I've Learned About Coaching, Community, and Growth 34:18

há 15 dias34:18

34:18

After a year of running Confident Boundaries alongside my therapy practice, I’m reflecting on the journey—what worked, what didn’t, and how I’ve evolved my approach to supporting adult children of BPD and NPD parents. Expanding beyond therapy has allowed me to help more people through coaching, community, and this podcast. And, in this episode I share: ✔️ Why I created the Confident Boundaries umbrella (way before the online community) ✔️ How I've been able to bridge the gap for those who couldn’t work with me in therapy ✔️ My initial resistance to coaching (and what changed my mind) ✔️ My decision to eliminate YouTube video recordings and the reason why If you’re struggling with setting boundaries with a BPD or NPD parent, make sure to join my free workshop by registering at confidentboundaries.com/boundariesworkshop . I'll show you how to frame boundaries with BPD and NPD parents effectively, manage guilt and anxiety so they no longer stop you, and enforce boundaries when your parent pushes back (because obviously they will). Support the show Love the show? Become a sponsor: confidentboundaries.com/become-a-sponsor-of-the-you-re-not-crazy-podcast Here's how else I can help: Register for my upcoming free workshop, How to Set Boundaries with a BPD or NPD Parent: confidentboundaries.com/boundariesworkshop Learn more about the Confident Boundaries Online Community: confidentboundaries.com/join Work with me in Coaching: confidentboundaries.com/coaching Follow me on Instagram: instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally. Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're ...…

You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

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When Your Toxic Parent Becomes a Grandparent to Your Kids 23:31

há 21 dias23:31

23:31

As the adult children of a parent with narcissistic or borderline personality disorder, becoming parents ourselves brings up a whole new set of challenges—especially when it comes to navigating the grandparent-grandchild relationship. In this episode, I dive into the emotional complexities of setting boundaries with toxic parents while trying to break dysfunctional patterns for our kids. I’ll cover: → How to handle difficult conversations with your children about going no contact → The impact of a toxic grandparent’s behavior on your kids—and what to watch for → Why your parent might not be the amazing grandparent you think they are And, if you're struggling with setting (and keeping) boundaries, don’t miss my upcoming FREE Workshop! Register now at confidentboundaries.com/boundariesworkshop Support the show Love the show? Become a sponsor: confidentboundaries.com/become-a-sponsor-of-the-you-re-not-crazy-podcast Here's how else I can help: Register for my upcoming free workshop, How to Set Boundaries with a BPD or NPD Parent: confidentboundaries.com/boundariesworkshop Learn more about the Confident Boundaries Online Community: confidentboundaries.com/join Work with me in Coaching: confidentboundaries.com/coaching Follow me on Instagram: instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally. Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're ...…

You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

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Adulting is Hard: Breaking the Cycle & Filling in the Gaps 16:24

há 28 dias16:24

16:24

Growing up with a parent who has borderline personality disorder (BPD) or narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) can have lasting emotional and practical impacts—some of which often go overlooked. In this episode, we dive into the challenges adult children of BPD/NPD parents face when it comes to "adulting" and why self-compassion is key. Listen to hear my thoughts about : ✔️ How being raised by a BPD/NPD parent can impact how equipped you are to navigate the adult world ✔️ Why many adult children struggle with adulting tasks—and how to forgive yourself ✔️ Dealing with feelings of shame and embarrassment about feeling behind some of your friends and peers ✔️ Practical strategies for building confidence and filling in the gaps ✔️ PLUS I talk a bit about the role of gaslighting and where most people I work with get stuck 🌟 Love the Podcast? If this episode resonates with you, please rate the podcast five stars and leave a review —it truly helps others find our show! Join the Community: confidentboundaries.com/join Schedule a Therapy Consultation: toriewikselltherapy.com/schedule Support the show Love the show? Become a sponsor: confidentboundaries.com/become-a-sponsor-of-the-you-re-not-crazy-podcast Here's how else I can help: Register for my upcoming free workshop, How to Set Boundaries with a BPD or NPD Parent: confidentboundaries.com/boundariesworkshop Learn more about the Confident Boundaries Online Community: confidentboundaries.com/join Work with me in Coaching: confidentboundaries.com/coaching Follow me on Instagram: instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally. Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're ...…

You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

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The Good Mom vs. The Punishing Mom: Reflections on My Childhood with My Narcissist Mother 22:43

há 5 weeks22:43

22:43

Growing up with a narcissistic or borderline parent means constantly navigating two versions of them—the loving, "good" parent and the punishing, unpredictable one. In this episode, I reflect on how caring for my sick daughter brought up memories of my own childhood—where empathy was absent, and love often came with conditions. I’ll explore how these experiences shaped my understanding of parenting, the emotional complexity of breaking the cycle, and the self-gaslighting that happens when you’ve been conditioned to question your own reality. If you’re working to parent differently than you were raised, or are working through gaslighting yourself about your own childhood, this episode is for you! In this episode, we’ll discuss: ✔ How parenting can trigger childhood trauma and unresolved emotions ✔ The duality of love and cruelty in a relationship with a BPD/NPD parent ✔ Why emotional neglect leaves lasting scars—and how to heal ✔ Overcoming self-doubt and breaking the cycle of generational trauma ✔ The role of empathy and accountability in healthy parenting ✔ Creating the safe, loving environment you never had as a child Support the show Love the show? Become a sponsor: confidentboundaries.com/become-a-sponsor-of-the-you-re-not-crazy-podcast Here's how else I can help: Register for my upcoming free workshop, How to Set Boundaries with a BPD or NPD Parent: confidentboundaries.com/boundariesworkshop Learn more about the Confident Boundaries Online Community: confidentboundaries.com/join Work with me in Coaching: confidentboundaries.com/coaching Follow me on Instagram: instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally. Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're ...…

You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

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Forgiveness Is Overrated—Now Acceptance? That’s Gold When You're Trying to Heal From a Parent with Narcissistic or Borderline Personality Disorder 19:31

há 6 weeks19:31

19:31

If you've ever been told that you have to forgive in order to heal, I want you to know—that’s just not true. In this episode, I’m breaking down why forgiveness is overrated , especially when it comes to parents with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder (BPD/NPD) . Instead of forcing yourself to forgive, what if you focused on acceptance instead? Because that’s where the real healing happens. In this episode, we’ll cover: ✔️ Why forgiveness is often a trap we get stuck in ✔️ The difference between acceptance and approval —you don’t have to “approve” of your parent’s behavior to accept reality ✔️ How acceptance helps you stop wasting energy trying to change someone you can't control ✔️ The truth about manipulative parental behaviors and why they keep you stuck ✔️ Why regaining autonomy over your own life is the real goal—not making peace with an abusive or toxic parent ✔️ How letting go of the pressure to forgive can actually set you free You are not a bad person if you don’t forgive. You don’t owe your parent forgiveness—but you do owe yourself peace. Let’s talk about how to get there. Make sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode! And, if this episode helped you, please leave a 5 star review—it helps more people find the show! Support the show Love the show? Become a sponsor: confidentboundaries.com/become-a-sponsor-of-the-you-re-not-crazy-podcast Here's how else I can help: Register for my upcoming free workshop, How to Set Boundaries with a BPD or NPD Parent: confidentboundaries.com/boundariesworkshop Learn more about the Confident Boundaries Online Community: confidentboundaries.com/join Work with me in Coaching: confidentboundaries.com/coaching Follow me on Instagram: instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally. Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're ...…

You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

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Breaking Free from Guilt When Dealing with Challenging Family Dynamics 21:21

há 7 weeks21:21

21:21

Is overwhelming guilt getting in the way of setting boundaries with your borderline or narcissistic parent? You’re not alone. In this episode of You're Not Crazy , I dive deep into the emotional weight of guilt that so many adult children of parents with BPD or NPD experience. I’ll break down how guilt is often used to manipulate behavior, why it feels so intense, and how you can start reclaiming your peace (even when the guilt feels paralyzing). Here’s what I cover in this episode: The difference between healthy guilt and guilt that’s designed to control you How guilt can cloud your decision-making process and keep you stuck in unhealthy patterns Practical strategies for asserting boundaries with confidence Why building a strong support system is essential for breaking the guilt cycle A reminder that you are so much more capable of doing hard things then you likely give yourself credit for If you're ready to stop guilt from running your life and want support from people who get it , check out the Confident Boundaries community at confidentboundaries.com/join . Support the show Love the show? Become a sponsor: confidentboundaries.com/become-a-sponsor-of-the-you-re-not-crazy-podcast Here's how else I can help: Register for my upcoming free workshop, How to Set Boundaries with a BPD or NPD Parent: confidentboundaries.com/boundariesworkshop Learn more about the Confident Boundaries Online Community: confidentboundaries.com/join Work with me in Coaching: confidentboundaries.com/coaching Follow me on Instagram: instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally. Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're ...…

You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

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10 Essential Steps for Healing from a Narcissistic or Borderline Parent 36:05

há 8 weeks36:05

36:05

In this episode of You're Not Crazy , I’m sharing the 10 crucial steps every adult child of a narcissistic or borderline parent needs to take as a part of their healing journey. Whether you're just starting to recognize the impact of your parent’s toxic behavior or you’re well into your healing journey, this episode will guide you through the foundational steps of breaking free from toxic cycles and building a healthier, more authentic life. We’ll cover: Understanding emotional abuse and its impact on you How to spot healthy vs. toxic relationship dynamics Setting boundaries that protect your peace (including when going no-contact is necessary) Building a circle of people who get it and can support your growth Practicing self-compassion (even when it feels impossible) Getting clear on your values and what matters to you Releasing the guilt of carrying other people’s emotions Learning how to sit with tough feelings without spiraling Diving into self-discovery and creating a life that feels like yours Embracing the fact that healing is a messy, ongoing journey This episode is packed with practical insights and encouragement to help you navigate your unique path to healing. If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure where to start, this is the episode you don’t want to miss! 👉 Tune in now to start reclaiming your identity and creating the life you deserve. Want to watch the video version of this episode? Click here to watch it on YouTube! Support the show Love the show? Become a sponsor: confidentboundaries.com/become-a-sponsor-of-the-you-re-not-crazy-podcast Here's how else I can help: Register for my upcoming free workshop, How to Set Boundaries with a BPD or NPD Parent: confidentboundaries.com/boundariesworkshop Learn more about the Confident Boundaries Online Community: confidentboundaries.com/join Work with me in Coaching: confidentboundaries.com/coaching Follow me on Instagram: instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally. Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're ...…

You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

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You Need to Be the Villain in Your Toxic Parent's Story in Order to Take Back Control of Your Life and Heal 21:11

há 9 weeks21:11

21:11

Being the adult child of a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder often means confronting the painful reality of being cast as the "villain" in their story. That s*cks, but learning to sit with this discomfort can help you take back control over your own life and finally prioritize your needs over their expectations. In this episode, we’ll unpack the dynamics that keep you stuck in this role and offer actionable insights to help you step into your villain role: How conditional love shapes self-worth The exhausting cycle of chasing validation and approval Recognizing the impact of gaslighting in parent-child relationships Breaking free from black-and-white thinking patterns Understanding the emotional cost of manipulation Why embracing the “villain” role can be freeing Building a support system outside of toxic family dynamics Reclaiming your identity with self-acceptance and healing Letting go of the need to rewrite their version of your story This episode will give you tools to move forward with clarity and confidence. I'm rooting for you! Support the show Love the show? Become a sponsor: confidentboundaries.com/become-a-sponsor-of-the-you-re-not-crazy-podcast Here's how else I can help: Register for my upcoming free workshop, How to Set Boundaries with a BPD or NPD Parent: confidentboundaries.com/boundariesworkshop Learn more about the Confident Boundaries Online Community: confidentboundaries.com/join Work with me in Coaching: confidentboundaries.com/coaching Follow me on Instagram: instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally. Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're ...…

You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

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5 Toxic Traits I Developed Growing Up in an Emotionally Chaotic Home 17:50

há 10 weeks17:50

17:50

In this episode of You’re Not Crazy , we’re diving into five toxic traits that I developed from growing up in an emotionally chaotic home—and more importantly, how I'm working on them. If you’ve ever struggled with people-pleasing, overexplaining, or feeling responsible for everyone else’s emotions, this episode is for you. Here’s what we’ll cover: ✨ Why recognizing and naming your emotions is a game-changer ✨ How to stop taking on responsibilities that aren’t yours and set boundaries instead ✨ Transforming negative self-talk into self-compassion ✨ Learning to trust your own voice instead of seeking constant external validation ✨ Breaking the habit of overexplaining and embracing confident communication This episode is packed with practical tips and personal insights. Tune in now and take the next step toward living life on your terms. 🎧 Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a 5 star review, and share this episode with someone who needs it! Support the show Love the show? Become a sponsor: confidentboundaries.com/become-a-sponsor-of-the-you-re-not-crazy-podcast Here's how else I can help: Register for my upcoming free workshop, How to Set Boundaries with a BPD or NPD Parent: confidentboundaries.com/boundariesworkshop Learn more about the Confident Boundaries Online Community: confidentboundaries.com/join Work with me in Coaching: confidentboundaries.com/coaching Follow me on Instagram: instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally. Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're ...…

You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

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Overcoming a Fear of Abandonment After Growing Up with a Borderline or Narcissistic Parent 18:56

há 11 weeks18:56

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If you grew up with a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, the fear of being abandoned by people you love might run deep. In this episode of You're Not Crazy , we unpack how toxic love from a parent impacts your relationships and self-worth as an adult — and, more importantly, how to break free from those patterns. We discuss: What conditional love from a BPD/NPD parent really looks like and how it contributes to a fear of abandonment Choosing yourself The power of setting clear, firm boundaries (even when it feels impossible) Steps to develop self-acceptance and improve your self-worth 🎙️ If you find this episode helpful, please remember to rate us 5 stars and leave a quick review- it helps so much! Support the show Love the show? Become a sponsor: confidentboundaries.com/become-a-sponsor-of-the-you-re-not-crazy-podcast Here's how else I can help: Register for my upcoming free workshop, How to Set Boundaries with a BPD or NPD Parent: confidentboundaries.com/boundariesworkshop Learn more about the Confident Boundaries Online Community: confidentboundaries.com/join Work with me in Coaching: confidentboundaries.com/coaching Follow me on Instagram: instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally. Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're ...…

You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

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This Year Was All About Growth: What I'm Most Proud of and What I’m Focusing on in 2025 23:09

há 12 weeks23:09

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Today I’m reflecting on how I’ve grown this year and what I’m focusing on for 2025. From taking bold action before I felt “ready” to ending a toxic friendship and trusting myself more, I’m sharing the real, unfiltered moments that have shaped my year. This episode is all about celebrating progress, embracing imperfections, and setting clear intentions for a fulfilling year ahead. Listen to hear my perspective on: Taking big steps before feeling “ready” Facing fears around sharing my personal journey Letting go of toxic relationships faster Trusting my gut and valuing my own opinions Expanding my impact My goals for 2025 Support the show Love the show? Become a sponsor: confidentboundaries.com/become-a-sponsor-of-the-you-re-not-crazy-podcast Here's how else I can help: Register for my upcoming free workshop, How to Set Boundaries with a BPD or NPD Parent: confidentboundaries.com/boundariesworkshop Learn more about the Confident Boundaries Online Community: confidentboundaries.com/join Work with me in Coaching: confidentboundaries.com/coaching Follow me on Instagram: instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally. Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're ...…

You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

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My Last Minute Game Plan for Surviving the Holidays with a Dysfunctional Family 19:35

há 13 weeks19:35

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If you’re the adult child of a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, the holidays can feel more stressful than joyful. In this episode, I’m sharing practical, actionable strategies to help you navigate these tricky family dynamics while prioritizing your mental health. From setting boundaries to managing emotional triggers, we’ll cover everything you need to make it through the season with more peace and less drama. Here’s what you’ll learn: How to set realistic expectations for family interactions. The key to creating a holiday game plan that works for you. Emotional regulation strategies to stay grounded when you’re triggered. Why avoiding conflict can be more powerful than engaging. Using the gray rock method to deflect negativity and maintain calm. Recognizing scapegoat dynamics—and how to protect yourself. Affirming your right to step away from harmful situations. Why self-care is non-negotiable during the festive season. Listen now to reclaim your holidays with confidence and clarity! Support the show Love the show? Become a sponsor: confidentboundaries.com/become-a-sponsor-of-the-you-re-not-crazy-podcast Here's how else I can help: Register for my upcoming free workshop, How to Set Boundaries with a BPD or NPD Parent: confidentboundaries.com/boundariesworkshop Learn more about the Confident Boundaries Online Community: confidentboundaries.com/join Work with me in Coaching: confidentboundaries.com/coaching Follow me on Instagram: instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally. Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're ...…

You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

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Breaking Cycles and Building Connections 18:49

há 14 weeks18:49